In my new book, The Dark Side of Cupid: Love Affairs, The Supernatural and Energy Vampirism, Nonviolent communication is suggested as a primary strategy to help resolve and recover from anomalous relationship issues that arise as a result of complicated “interferences” within the love relationship itself. Compassionate communication skills are merely the first step in resolving anomalous issues, and when practiced regularly, can create profound shifts in our own understanding, empathy and connection with the other individual.
I deliberately focused on the relationship and spirituality issues of anomalous phenomena because I believe it will take an entirely different strategy than the ones I’m witnessing in the “truth seeking community” for the real, lasting, powerful changes and solutions we seek. We don’t need any more details of what the aliens are doing, what craft are flying in the sky, endless scientific debates and what underground bases employ the secret government-in-bed-with-the-bad aliens, etc., etc., etc.
Non-violent communication practice also helps the communicators to use parts of themselves that accelerate emotional intelligence and can deepen ones divine, soul connection. As this divine connection deepens, empathy and compassion arise as a natural part of our being. This important step ALSO expands our total awareness in other areas of our lives, which beforehand may have been mysterious, or disconnected from other levels of understanding if we primarily rely on rational levels of intelligence.
Now, having said that, what I have observed in the UFO/Paranormal/Conspiracy and “Disclosure” oriented, truth seeking community is a basic unmet need for inner connection and empathy. Many of these individuals–whether they know it or not–are experiencers of anomalous phenomena such as alien visitations and paranormal experiences, harassment, etc. As both a scientist and counselor, I see that a connect between the logical rational mind and heart intelligence is a necessary step to understanding and ultimately recovering from anomalous trauma. This includes the basic problem of non disclosure of anomalous phenomena interacting with humanity. (UFOS, alien/ET visitations, secret government mind control abuse, etc.)
Most persons in our western patriarchal culture–especially those of the more rational mindsets, continually “stay in their heads” assuming some scientific theory or logical explanation and proof will solve the problem. To make matters worse, these rationalists assume emotional intelligence, compassionate communication and spirituality issues are of less value or not even “the issue” of the problems they face. Nothing could be further from the truth.
What I have observed in this well-meaning, truth seeking community, are habitual behaviors and beliefs which are part of the problem.( I’m right, you’re wrong, ego based compulsive behaviors, criticism and blame, etc.) We need understanding, compassion, wisdom and self-empowerment to deal with the real issues. And yes, they are complicated. Devaluation of the intuitive, emotional, and spiritual aspect of our being, while assuming the superiority of scientific rationalism–will only cause more misunderstanding, harm and suffering in the long run. When there is a disconnect with the empathic and divine aspect of our being, we may tend toward entertainment seeking, unnecessary drama and endless scientific and rational debates, resulting in a cyclic process that goes nowhere but more frustration.
It is my experience that in order for the wisdom of true insight to arise, one must be in the presence of compassion. Compassion and wisdom are two sides of the same coin and exist together in divine awareness. These attributes can develop by doing healing work with yourself and with others, until true insight dawns. The practice of Non-violent communication and compassionate communication skills is a first step towards the raising of ones consciousness. This is a very powerful practice I encourage anyone to learn.
Perhaps by this point in the article I have lost most “male readers”. I’ve heard it said amongst some Native American medicine women that in this era, it will be women who must heal themselves first, then the women must work to help heal the men. Only then will harmony and balance be restored. Oh–and that includes the “Disclosure” issue.
Here are a couple of videos of Marshall Rosenburg, founder of Non-violent communication. The first video clip is shorter for an introduction into Non-violent communication. The second video are questions and answers about this communication practice.