Inner Empathy Process Work

This is an update on the Anomalous Trauma and Embody U Groups that were discussed in the previous posting for Anomalous Trauma Group Support. We at RISE Multiversity decided to wait until the launching of our first Round Table Discussion Forum, which is now set for Sunday, May 17, 2014, 5 pm Eastern Time, before setting dates and times for Embody U groups. However, we did come to an agreement that a time frame for the Anomalous Trauma group will most likely be held on a Monday or Thursday evening from 6-8 pm, and possibly another group for a weekend afternoon time slot if we have more than one group.

For now I would  like to share what I have learned from Inner Empathy in my own experience as well as its precursor, Compassionate Communication.

Inner Empathy as I learned it from Jerry Donoghue of Asheville, NC

Inner Empathy is  derived from Non-Violent Communication or Compassionate Communication.(Marshall Rosenberg)

NVC, to summarize is based on four components:

  • Observations
  • Feelings
  • Needs
  • Requests

These four aspects are important to define clearly for an individual in communication with another person in relationship when wanting to communicate effectively and with compassion. At the root of all feelings are core needs, which may or may not have been met, and the reason for the arising feeling(s). These feelings, if they are based on unmet needs, and if incurred traumatically, may result in beliefs or judgements about life and people which are erroneous. These “false beliefs”  function primarily on a subconscious level, and are the driving force which patterns the person’s life and how they create their life. (Positive feelings or even neutral ones based on needs which are met, result in a balanced truthful view of reality, life and do not compete or create conflict within oneself or with others.)

These unconscious beliefs, feelings and core human needs which have not been met are then the inner conflict which are the basis of competing unconscious needs that get in the way of integration and wholeness. One set of needs is held subconsciously and be the basis of behaviors which are acted out, despite holding another set of consciously held beliefs, feelings and needs.

Inner Empathy is a way to communicate with the inner parts of oneself, by being guided by a listener who supports the inner inquiry process of helping the “supported” person discover deep feelings and needs which tend to lurk in the shadow realms of ones consciousness.

Inner Empathy can view the psyche as a system of parts that are held in awareness. To simplify, there are three basic types of parts:

Manager Parts: When we experientially connect with these protective parts, in addition to whatever these parts are protecting, these parts are no longer necessary in their extreme form and can be integrated in the system as allies in practical life matters. These parts are the ones that arrange and run daily life in such a way as to prevent the painful exiled feelings from emerging.

Firefighter Protective Parts: When we experientially connect with these protective parts, in addition to connecting to whatever they are protecting, these parts are no longer necessary in their extreme form and may rise again out of habit until the habit changes. Long time additions can fall away without much effort. These parts are the ones that urgently “take over” the system to extinguish or soothe any painful exile feelings that begin to or have surfaced.

Exiled, Disowned or Vulnerable Parts: These are the core parts representing the nitty gritty of the real, core-self issues. When we experientially connect with the pain, trapped feelings, unmet needs, self-judgements, beliefs and burdens of the core exiled (or dissociated, repressed) parts, something magical happens. This deep connection plays out for each person in different ways and protective parts seem to be less overprotective and defensive. Effortless self-corrections occur.

To get to this place of authentic core-self, we may go through many layers of defenses and levels of awareness,  uncovering our triggers, and reactions to these triggers. These reactions and feelings eventually ease off into more equanimity within an ever expanding spacious, compassionate awareness and presence. The manager and firefighter parts can also be viewed as defenses one may act out to protect vulnerable feelings and needs which are still stuck in a time warp of initial trauma. Some people have many layers of defenses, and oftentimes in the inner inquiry process many protective parts may come out simultaneously, acting out a story or drama that may play out on more on a mental level or cycle in anger before the real gut wrenching feelings finally surface.

When we can be fully authentic, and present within our own self, we are more able to extend that compassionate presence for others to explore their own authentic self. This happens through the heart.

In the beginning of an Inner Empathy Process of Authentic Self Discovery, one may have a totality of 4 basic aspects of being that can be represented as:

  • Manager Parts
  • Firefighter Parts
  • Exiled, Disowned and Vulnerable Parts
  • Empathetic Awareness

Where the manager, firefighter and disowned parts may carry a major portion of the personality. As we process the core feelings and unmet needs with the compassionate presence of our witnessing self, and with others in a supportive role, our own sense of self grows into becoming a greater percentage of Empathetic Awareness, and less identified with the other manager, firefighter or victim parts sill holding strong feelings and unmet needs. A huge part of not getting stuck in unpleasant feelings is to not identify with the feelings as oneself, but instead identify with the compassionate awareness that is aware of these feelings, which do eventually pass.

More can be found about Inner Empathy at:

I believe that cultivating a basic foundation of Inner Empathy and practice of the Non Violent Communication (NVC)  interpersonal communication skills, one can then be at a more favorable place to build strong community.

(Reference: Inner Empathy Workbook by Jerry Donoghue, ISBN 978-1-61658-152-7)

The Basic, Ethical Tenets of Non-violent Communication of Compassionate Communication Consciousness:

  •  living under the assumption that we are all one, experiencing no separation, unitive consciousness
  • viewing the world through the lens of needs based consciousness instead of right/wrong or good/bad consciousness
  • fostering heart-to-heart connections
  • holding needs lightly in a way where they are to “have to have” (demanding and pushy)
  • holding the intention of wanting to cultivate a quality of connection where we value everyone’s needs and trust they all can be met
  • making true requests (not demands)
  • deriving strategies from this space of mutual consideration of each other’s needs
  • inspiring ourselves to want to contribute to other’s  needs out of a sense of love and caring instead of our of a sense of guilt or shame, or being motivated by demand, duty or obligation


Anomalous Trauma Group Support and Process Work

I want to share a bit about what a colleague and I are planning for support groups for Anomalous Trauma experiencers.These may extend to other personal growth and “awakening from the Matrix” issues as well. Our plan to begin such groups is within the next month and beyond. We are calling these support groups Embody U Groups, and they will also become a part of RISE Multiversity.


Many years ago while living in Southern California, I conducted open discussion and support groups for people who experienced UFO encounters, alien abductions, milabs and related mind control and spirituality issues. I had learned early on that it was much more fruitful to facilitate such groups with a strong focus on empathic support and honest sharing, as opposed to intellectualizing belief systems, discussion and debate. (However, discussion Roundtable events will be offered through RISE Multiversity soon), I knew that if any real therapeutic work could be done, it would have to be structured with an authentic heart-centered approach, where we can get to the root issues common to human reactions to anomalous trauma. And, to do this while providing safety and confidentiality within a professional framework, as opposed to the often circus-like, exploitative atmosphere of UFO/paranormal/conspiracy related venues and conferences.

Today, there is a strong need for group connection and support in an empathic therapeutic environment. I am specifically emphasizing this need for those who have “awakened” to the reality that our world is not what the “mainstream matrix constructs” have purported it to be, and so while groups in person may be available for “normal matrix belief systems/issues, this is not really widely available except through online support networks and forums that have evolved out of the alternative media community. Ideally, a growth oriented group is best done in person where real human connection and relationship can be established in safety and trust, so that open sharing on deep emotional levels can be achieved and supported. But in today’s world, where there are people scattered across the globe, it is inconvenient to meet in person for group support on a regular basis.

Nowadays we are employing internet videoconferencing technology to conduct consultations, hypnotherapy sessions, and other forms of support to meet these needs for a global population. Systems such as FUZEBox, CiscoWebEx and all manner of webinar and support forums are available now, but none that I know of are actually doing support groups for anomalous trauma and “matrix awakening” related issues.

What is done in person, can also be done within a videoconferencing sharing format with several people within a small group of maybe 10 or less. While it may not be ideal, alot can be done to meet the increasing demands and need for authentic human connection in a safe online environment.

Empathic support forums can offer things like reflective listening, no-crosstalk rules, staying heart and emotion centered with group facilitation so that root feelings and needs can be realized for the person sharing. In this way the person sharing can veer away from “mental spinning in the story” and quickly reach core issue resolution. Compassionate presence is offered by the group and also realized within the client for her/himself at the same time. This basic method is derived from the practice of Compassionate Communication Skills and Inner Empathy.

Other therapeutic modes such as or shadow work can be employed for emotional process and parts integration. My colleague, Seinna Lea, (M.A. Psychology) is a well-known radio host of  Illuminating the Shadowland  on TFRN. She also author of the book, Stealing the Moon, that looks at the effect of the dominator culture on archetypal realms we all carry. Sienna will be co-facilitating the Embody U Support group. Her expertise is in helping people identify the shadow aspects of their psyche, breaking contracts with the artificial constructs and integrating sub-personalities and feeling states that habituate our behavior and inform our choices. She brings her background of psychodrama to help move obsolete behaviors through emotional quantum intelligence of her group work.

These methods help deepen ones spiritual/soul connection to God/Source where true insight and compassion awakens within the individual. With these practices, the witnessing aspect of ones spacious, compassionate presence expands until it becomes fully embodied, expanding ones consciousness.

In addition to my basic empathic support skills, (MA in Counseling Psychology and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist) I also am knowledgable in a plethora of issues that arise in life, such as addictions, adult children of alcoholics issues, narcisscistic abuse, mind control, relationship dynamics and counseling, bereavement and grief work, and transpersonal “human potential growth” exercises. I often employ relaxation and hypnotherapeutic work in my private sessions as well as the liberation methods created by Dr. Corrado Malanga of Italy for eliminating alien interference issues.

In a nutshell, these methods can be incorporated in group and individual personal growth work:


  • Reflective listening and sharing: Empathic Support
  • Compassionate Communication or Non-Violent Communication Skills
  • Inner Empathy and Parts Integration
  • Insight oriented psychodynamics and self-inquiry
  • Relationship issues and counseling
  • Hypnotherapy
  • Transpersonal/Spirituality Exercises such as meditation, lucid dreaming practices, body/mind exercises like yoga and Qi Gong*

*While I know spirituality is very important, I do not propose any particular religion, deity or belief system upon anyone. My education spans the scientific from Biochemistry to Oriental Medicine and yoga asana, Chi Gong, to Counseling and Hypnotherapy. I have found that it is more effective to simplify methods that connect people to their hearts, bodies and souls with less rather than “more”.