Internet Addiction

By Audrina Benson

Psychological Similarities Between Online Addiction and Other

Internet addiction is typically defined as a compulsive, uncontrollable need to use the Internet, to the point where Internet use interferes with and damages real-life relationships and responsibilities. Is online addiction the same as other addictions and should it be considered as seriously by those studying the human brain? Can compulsive behavior even be classified as an “addiction” in the same way that substance abuse disorders can? The psychiatric community continues to debate these and other questions, but the fact is that, regardless of definition, Internet addiction has significant, negative impacts on the lives of many people and families.

Dr. Kimberly Young, founder of The Center for Internet Addiction, was one of the first in the psychiatric community to conduct research on Internet addiction. Dr. Young first identified Internet addiction in the mid-90s, and presented her findings to the American Psychological Association in a 1996 paper entitled “Internet Addiction: The Emergence of a New Disorder.” Since then, Internet addiction has become a global problem, spreading to nations as diverse as Pakistan, Germany, and China, among others. Internet addiction has been classified as a legitimate mental illness.

Dr. Young, and others, such as Dr. David Greenfield, who founded the Center for Internet Studies, believe that the Internet acts on the brain like a psychoactive drug, causing addiction symptoms similar to those of physically addictive substances. Dr. Greenfield’s work with Internet addicts shows that those suffering from online addiction are likely to report feeling a lack of control over their Internet use, a sense of time distortion while using the Internet, and other symptoms of addiction. Addicts may feel an increased, though typically inaccurate, sense of intimacy with online friends and acquaintances, may use the Internet to cope with unpleasant emotions, and may use the Internet frequently and compulsively.

Internet addicts often find that relationships with family and friends suffer as a result of their compulsive behavior. Internet addiction, like other forms of addiction, damages marriages, partnerships, families and friendships. Internet addicts place Internet use before time with family and friends, and may feel like their real-life friends and relatives don’t really understand them the way their online friends do. Internet addicts, like alcoholics and others, feel guilty about spending time online, and try to hide it. Work suffers, and important chores go undone due to excessive Internet use. When the Internet addict is logged in, he or she may feel on top of the world, only to struggle with feelings of anxiety or depression when not online.

The similarities between Internet and other addictions go beyond the behavioral into the physical. A Chinese study of Internet addicts aged 14 to 21 found that Internet addiction correlates with physical changes in the brain identical to those seen in heavy users of cocaine, marijuana and alcohol. Important decreases in grey matter were noted in the areas responsible for impulse control, decision making, emotional management and repetitive behaviors. These young people suffered no other mental disorders — they were not afflicted with depression, psychosis, anxiety disorder or other addictions. This refutes a popular theory that Internet addiction may, in fact, be a way of coping with unrelated mental illness, attesting to the fact that Internet addiction deserves recognition as a real disorder – even if the “substance” is intangible.

Compassionate Communication Skills

One of the most effective communication skills to learn and practice is compassionate communication. It is based on the work of Marshall Rosenberg and is also known as
Non Violent Communication or NVC. What is great about compassionate communication is its utter simplicity, and emphasis on sincerely connecting to the heart.

I have personally taken the Compassionate Communication course by Jerry Donoghue in Asheville, NC and can attest to its effectiveness, ease and simplicity without getting into complicated “psychobabble”. This course is also offered via online skype conferencing.

Another course that is highly effective for personal growth and development of compassion is Inner Empathy. This goes a step further and addresses deeper issues that arise in relationships. This is also offered online and practice groups meet so that others can regularly practice compassionate communication and inner empathy awareness. These methods are independent of any religious orientation, and can be adapted to anyones personal faith. I use these methods in my coaching and hypnotherapy practice.

http://www.ashevilleccc.com/articles.html

This is an article on Inner Empathy.

http://www.innerempathy.com/articles.html

 

How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved

 By Sandra L. Brown, M.A.

This article was originally taken from the web site of Sandra L. Brown, MA.

http://www.saferelationships.com
Women erroneously think that a dangerous man is only a violent man. While the violent man is indeed one of the categories of dangerous men, there are seven others that Continue reading